In this episode of the She Finds Joy podcast, Kim has an in-depth talk with Colene Elridge about forgiveness, grieving, and how to live without harboring negative feelings. Colene is a total badass HR success coach and spends her time advocating for women to stand up for themselves and their abilities.
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In this episode, Kim and Colene are talking about…
- Ways that women downplay their own abilities and achievements (and why we need to stop!)
- How Colene carved a path as a successful HR professional as a black woman in corporate America
- Why it’s so important to practice forgiveness rather than let anger and bitterness consume us—and why sometimes forgiveness is not a one-time process
“I think it’s okay to feel hurt and pain and not want to forgive someone. I don’t think that there has to be this blanket apology and forgiveness that you spread out across the world. But I do think you have to reign it in because if not, it’s easy to let that snowball and all of a sudden you’re walking around angry and mad and overwhelmed because you’re holding on to all of this, all of this that’s not meant for you to hold onto.” – Colene Elridge
Colene’s Best Advice for Forgiving Ourselves and Others
- We don’t need to forgive everyone all at once—it’s a process, and it’s perfectly okay to not be ready to forgive someone. However, try not to actively dislike more than three people at one time.
- Sometimes, certain things will trigger us and we will need to go through the forgiveness process again. When you choose to forgive someone again, you are growing and progressing as a person.
- We need to allow ourselves to feel the gross, unappealing feelings that go hand-in-hand forgiveness process.
Links
Monday Morning Pep Talks by Colene Elridge